Why am I writing about this and who cares?
It's a big deal - it gets into the Big T (Trust, that is).
Why do I do something for you? Is it because I have an ulterior motive (e.g., for you to do something for me in return or for you to NOT do something)?
Or perhaps doing something (or not doing something) leads me to be viewed in a very positive light by those around me.
This is a topic that has recently gotten my attention and that I've been challenged to examine within myself. In the Old Testament, the Jews were given over 600 commandments that ruled every facet of their lives. I guess that the thought process was as follows: "If we can think of every possible scenario that a human can encounter, and structure a rule to govern it, we will always be in God's good graces."
I don't think it works that way.
Looking at my relationship within my family, as well as with professionals within the work world. It's very different. It's more along the lines of, "How can I embody the spirit of the rules in such a way that I can respond re-actively AND pro-actively to every situation the right way?".
Whew - that's huge.
In essence, instead of memorizing a bunch of instruction manuals, you and the Instruction Manual kind of "meld" together.
If you get really good at this, ultimately, you are doing what you do for the right reasons; the intentions and actions are in total alignment (both internally as well as externally) and you can more closely approximate who you are supposed to be. Acting (and being) this way leads to the big payoff - your congruency will result in the creation of high trust relationships because you will be seen as being a trust-worthy person.
And you will be.
